'Deadbeat dad before the baby is even born': Pregnant Wife Refuses To Tell Husband The Gender Of Their Baby After He Ditched Her For Fish N Chips With The Boys

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elina lee
Jan 4, 2023 2:00 PM EST

For some unknown reason, men seem to think that it's completely okay to put minimal effort into a relationship. Not only that but they'll also expect us to be okay with it. Of course, not all men, but lots and lots and lots. We honestly blame ourselves sometimes because we let so many things slide. We choose to be the bigger person and avoid making a scene. But we're human after all and we have limits. At one point or another, we have to put our foot down and make it known that the bare minimum is not welcome. Or else it will just get worse and utterly complicated. 

Like, for example, this pregnant wife right here that's expecting her first child with a husband that is willing to miss any and every Dr. appointment - No, really just give him a reason. Or better yet, don't bother - he'll come up with something on his own. Now the wife finds herself in a sticky situation with a man she can't rely on. Have a read for yourself and let us know your thoughts - should she dump him? 

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    Human body - Posted by u/Thrownoreveal1 4 hours ago 2 33 AITA for refusing to tell my husband the gender of our baby after he skipped going to the dr appointment with me?
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    Font - My husband & I are expecting. This is our first baby and we're excited. Thing is he barely attends any dr appointments with me and his excuses aren't even valid. He's willing to miss the dr appointment over soccer or a drink or board game with friends. His response is always "I'm not the one carrying the baby, why do I have to go see the dr with you?".
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    Font - Last week was my final straw. He was supposed to come with me for the baby's gender reveal appointment but he chose to not come last minute because his friend invited him to fish 'n' chips meal. I was pretty livid but didn't make a fuss about it. Mom went with me instead.
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    "He was supposed to come with me for the baby's gender reveal appointment but he chose to not come last minute because his friend invited him to fish 'n' chips meal." 

    Did everyone read that?! Fish n chips??? That's actually wild 

     

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    Font - He texted asking me to tell him the results (boy or girl) but I refused to tell him. He kept spam calling me but I hung up each time. He came home fuming demanding I tell him the results but I refused and bluntly told him, since he refused to attend the appointment then he gets no results til after the baby's born and said I was wiling to die on this hill. He went off calling me spiteful and immature for doing this and punishing him. He said he's the father and has the right to know. He t
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    Font - He's been fuming about it and told his family and they're now pressuring me to stop playing mind games with him and tell him but I declined.
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    Sounds like a big cry baby man-child to us

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    Font - AITA? EDIT/UPDATE: Hi, so, first of all, wow!!! I did not expect this to blow up. Sorry, can't answer any comments because of feeling overwhelmed...um I just wanted to mention that my husband just attempted to contact my dr to get the results. It didn't go well and we had another argument over it. He couldn't get it since his mom was the one who made the call.
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    Font - Annii84 4 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [6] 3 F 2 & 6 More NTA. Already a deadbeat dad before the baby is even born.
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    Font - ohno_spaghetti_o Asshole Aficionado [17] 3 hr. ago S I would drop a friend if I found out they prioritised fish n chips over their wife and baby's doctor appointment.
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    Font - somethingkooky 2 hr. ago Partassipant [1] This. To be clear, this is NOT a gender reveal appointment - it is a full anatomical scan in which they check every organ and limb for potential issues, and as a side note, can also often tell you which genitals baby will have. So partner is not just skipping a 'gender reveal', but leaving their pregnant partner to attend a lengthy appointment on their own during which they could possibly receive concerning information about the development of the
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    Font - No_Bodybuilder8055 2 hr. ago Right, it's like he doesn't even care about his child. Doesn't he want to hear the baby's heartbeat, find out everything about them. Since the mum is carrying the child, the only way the father can know information and be involved is to go to the doctors appointments.
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    Font - DoYou HaveAnyIdea16 1 hr. ago I normally hate how the sub jumps to "dump the guy" so easily. However, in this case, I think OP is going to be raising the baby on her own. I don't see this bloke changing diapers or getting up during the night. Not sure she'll be able to change him but start with maintaining this as a hill to die on.
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    Font - Relationship_Winter 2 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Yup, I went to mine alone and found out the baby had physical deformities incompatible with life (genetic testing later confirmed Trisonomy 18). It was devastating and I was alone (height of covid). There are only a few appointments I felt like I needed my partner at, and anatomy scanning is certainly at the top of the list. ·
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